Think back. Was there ever a moment that you felt defensive? I'll bet there was and I'll bet if you really thought about that moment, you'd find that you were protecting some belief that was center to you - your essence.
Wouldn't it be wonderful if in that moment of defensiveness, we could express what was at the root core of our apprehension? Instead of talking all around it, we could admit what was truly driving our reaction.
So stop the next time you feel defensive and ask yourself what you're really trying to defend.